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Square Peg in a Round Hole? 

A square peg doesn’t work in a round hole, right? Yet I find myself fighting the obvious. It’s like trying to convince someone of an opposing point of view to change their mind.

“Can we agree to disagree?” I’d rather this than not be on speaking terms which could happen. It’s such a loss. I believe we can learn a great deal from those with whom we disagree. Otherwise, we can end up in our own “echo chamber.”

When gathering with family members, some find themselves with some who hold contrary opinions. This can be challenging. Ever find yourself thinking that your rebuttals will change their mind? Not usually.

I have found that if I set my own agenda aside, it allows me to listen and ask clarifying questions. If it’s a question of safety, I’ll speak up. Otherwise, if I do share an opinion, it’s not with the intent to change the other person’s ideas. For someone to consider a different opinion, they have to feel heard, first. 

Here’s a great quote: “You can’t change people by punishing them for being who they are. So just accept them.” Terry McMillan

More next time on the effects of affirmations…

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