I catch myself making assumptions, sometimes on a daily basis. It’s startling! Does this happen for you? Maybe you’re making guesses on what you are about to read.
We can avoid the pitfalls of assumptions. The result will be greater authenticity. It’s easier to be present when we are open to interactions, setting assumptions aside.
The first 3 letters in the word assumption poignantly point to how I feel when I assume. Why not just ask? There’s no need to overthink situations.
When on a walk, I came upon this tree in the photo. I appreciated the textures and colors. It was a great reminder to take in its beauty and not try to figure out what had happened.
I’ve assumed that someone would not be available because they are going through some health issues or they might be really busy. Or, I have assumed that someone is rich because of the holiday decorations they had out. (More on this in a future article.)
Since assumptions can blind our view, change your perspective. Change an assumption to an opportunity to ask questions and learn more about others.
Lead with curiosity setting aside judgments. This will lead to more authentic, healthy relationships.
If I do make assumptions, I try to assume the best. Everyone is doing their best.
Here’s a recent quote a friend shared:
“The Six Assumptions: *Assume you are guarded and loved at all times, and worry not. *Assume everything's happening for your benefit, and fret not. *Assume everyone you meet is doing his or her best, and judge not. *Assume you're good enough, always, and doubt not. *Assume that the next step is the right one, and falter not. *Assume all is well, and fear not.”
Cash Peters, Why Your Life Matters
More on the being stuck with the “right way” next time. In the meantime, practice switching any assumptions to favorable outcomes. It’ll make a difference in how you connect with others and how you think of them.
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